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Mary’s Special Treat Chart
By Mary Francen

Have you ever had a problem that you can’t solve on your own? Sometimes in life there are those types of problems and issues that for whatever reason are out of your control. Sometimes it seems as if a little extra encouragement is needed, even as an adult :)

Here is the idea. Grab a big piece of oak tag from the local arts and craft store. This is a fun project, so get some markers, some crayons and glitter - whatever you want to make it nice and pretty. Sit at the table and think about all the things you want help yourself with.

Draw a huge box on the oak tag and than split that into several little boxes (see pictures below) but leave room at the top of the oak tag, as much room as you need, to put in large words YOUR NAME special treat chart. Under that, write in a pretty color marker the things that you will get a sticker for that day if you followed them all or for things that you do that are extra special.

For things such as, "Oh my God, what a horrible day and ya know what I handled it really well," you get to put an extra sticker there. After all, you didn’t slap that lady even though she called you every name in the book and normally you would have come right back at her with every other name in the book.

Now it does help if you have someone else to do the actual sticker assigning. Once a sticker is on the chart it can not be removed. No cheating allowed :) but the basic premise is that this is a reward system.

There are things that you love to do: going bowling; going to the sticker store for and buy $25 worth of glittery stickers for your sticker book; going to the arcade at the end of the week and blowing $50 on games; going to the book store and buying a handful of your favorite books... the point being extra special treats, things that you have had to earn, things that you will want to earn by being good and following the rules that you have set for yourself or you and your partner have set. :)

I have listed on my chart under my name the rules that go along with my chart, but that’s not a necessity. I don’t recommend going insane with the rules either. This is supposed to be something that is for major things, not the every day things, not little things that we all do.

This is a little way of having that extra bit of spice and fun in your life while getting that extra bit of help that even "grownups" sometimes need. :)

At the end of the week you or your partner looks at the chart and sees if you have earned your stickers for the week. In my case, for the most part, the entire week is weighed out and based on my overall behavior a treat is meted out. :)

For me a trip to the local sticker store armed with $25 or a trip to the local bowling alley is a wonderful adventure. In the summertime the boardwalk, complete with the local foods, cotton candy and rides is a wonderful treat for my rewards. :)

I hope you all have fun. That is the major part of this, watching the stickers go up on the chart each night and seeing them accumulate, even if it takes some time to adjust, as it did for me. That is also the reason for the large piece of oak tag. It helps to see your accomplishments in the grand scale. :)