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How does DID effect play?
By Mary Francen
DID
or as some know it MPD can effect your “role-play” in a lot of ways. Some
for the VERY bad, so some care must always be taken by those with this disorder.
The
key thing to keep in mind here is that so long as you are “aware” of the
alters “not everyone who has this disorder is aware of it” than your fine
but your “play partner” needs to be made aware as well.
Even
if it is just a one time thing they need to know. At least this is just one
little girls opinion on the matter. “Who is NOT a Dr. by any means mind
you”. I just consider it playing on the fair side of the playground :).
Would
it be fair to be “role-playing” with someone and suddenly have one of the
others pop out not knowing what is going on, and freak on that person? No of
course not. So the saying Safe, Sane and consensual is of the utmost importance
here.
Of
course this can also be a fun thing as well for your play partner depending upon
your partner and what it is that you’re doing. And the age of said
“alter”. Depending on your play partner, there are a lot of fun things that
can be done with the alters while they are out.
This
should be something that is discussed ahead of playtime. “The what ifs should
always be taken care of before any play. Basically like a safe word, use some
common care, if your partner sees that it is suddenly NOT you, well ok then it
is time to switch to plan B.
If
the two of you are just coloring in a book for instance and “Grace age five”
were to come out well there is no harm in that, and it’s something fun, and
safe for her to do.
Your
partner may or may not be able to even enjoy the experience a bit more that
would depend on them.
Because
there are some who mix the sexual aspect into age-play this is where it becomes
dangerous and why your partner MUST be made aware.
Because
if you are doing some “special cuddles” at the time and “Denise said nine
year old were to pop out” well that would make things obviously VERY wrong on
every level of wrong if your partner did not know what was going on!
Depending
upon said alter and there personality this could lead to some dangerous problems
for your play partner as well.
They
may not know what is going on they may just simply freak out and start to swing
at them, or they because of past abuse go along with what is happening at the
time.
Either
way it is not a good situation; or more importantly not something that either
party needs to have happen. Hence why open communication is such an important
thing for those who have DID or MPD and there play partners.
For
me I have Uncle and Daddy and they both know and can recognize the signs of when
“I” am not “out”. And each of them will handle that in a little
different way.
Yes
I have DID or MPD which ever you wish to call it. I also have a “little me”
“The girls” as I call them are different than the “little me” I don’t
have any memory when “the girls” pop out for a visit, as to what goes on.
So
when those times that I am “role-playing” with Uncle or Daddy and I
“go to sleep” I usually will ask ok what happened when I first come back and
than just pick up where I left off. “This is of course providing that nothing
traumatic happened”.
Yes
this can be a bit inconvenient for all concerned at times. But it is not
something that with a little bit of patience and love can not be worked around.